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I Dare You!

Nobody is perfect. This is something that we all know, but we all seem to forget. It does not matter what you do, you will never make 100% of the people happy 100% of the time.

Harry Potter. What a huge success that book series, and then the movies series was. It was liked, and even loved, by so many. Yet there were people who picked and prodded about every little thing, apparently to just find something wrong.

Super Bowl half-time shows. It does not matter who performs (Madonna, The Who, The Black Eyed Peas, Justin Timberlake and Janet Jackson), The very next day everyone will be talking about and the internet will be in a frenzy over all the things that were wrong with the show.

And now, the Olympics. Models, time length, performers, performances. Every little thing is picked at and turned upside down to be analyzed under a microscope. Was it perfect? Probably not, if humans were involved.


Seriously?! There is a saying that comes to mind…. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

Say Hooray to those who follow their dreams. Hooray to those who do what they love to do no matter what. Hooray to those who at least have the guts to try to do something good or right.

Find something to be positive about. It’s amazing just how you’re whole mood, day, or life can change just by finding the positive in things and going with it.

I dare you to find something good in that seemingly bad book, movie, or situation. I dare you to overlook the negative and seek out the positive. I dare you to make the world a more positive place for yourself, and for others.



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Throughout our life we acquire scars. Some scars are bad, and some scars are good, but as with everything else in life…. It is what we do with them that matters.

They are flaws that add character. Things that make us who we are. They show that we have lived, or that we have survived.

They remind us to be cautious, or remind us to take risks. The are examples of what we’ve done, and examples of what we should not have done.

They are memories of where we’ve been, and motivation for where we want to go. They are our life’s teachers, mentors, lessons, dreams, and hopes.

Our scars shape us, they encourage us, and the define us.

Here are a few of my scars that define me.


This scar on my right ankle is from when I was an infant. Back then, that scar was the entire span of the inside of my ankle.  There is a story somewhere here in my other posts about that particular incident. If I was more technologically adept I’d put a link to it right here, but since I am not that skilled…. consider it a treasure hunt.


This scar is on my right wrist. I had problems with my wrist/hand/arm for about 5 years and saw all too many doctors that said there was nothing wrong over those 5 years I had carpal tunnel like symptoms, but did not have carpal tunnel since I lost complete use of my hand/grip after performing menial tasks. One doctor finally did surgery on my wrist. Turns out, there was a cyst in my wrist that was leaking fluid, filling up the entire area of my wrist, which in turn constricted everything in that area. Absolute worst surgical recovery I have ever had. It was an extraordinarily painful recovery, but it was one of the best simply due to the fact that I could once again use my right arm/hand.

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Yep, that is my neck. This scar is my ‘victim of a violent crime’ scar. I had my throat slit from one side to the other. It will be one of my stories, and may even be a two parter, so keep an eye out down the road. The scar itself is a bit hard to see on the picture if you don’ know what you’re looking at.

Looking at the picture, it is wide/jagged on the right side and turns to thin and raised from the middle and over to the left side. It goes at an angle across my throat. From the lower natural crease on one side (right in the picture), to the higher natural crease on the other side (left in the picture). When I am emotional, stressed/angry/upset, it stands out more. When you get really frustrated, your skin changes color a bit. Scar tissue does not.

The scar itself isn’t so bad. Took quite awhile to heal, and I treated it well with vitamin E oil and the like. It also was a very huge help that the trauma doc on call that night just happened to be a plastic surgeon.

I am not my scars, but my scars make me. They don’t hinder me, they complete me. Without them, I wouldn’t be who I am today.

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Celebrities are people too

Have you ever had one of those days? You know, the kind where things just don’t seem to go quite right. They don’t go horribly wrong, so it’s not so obvious that maybe you should just call it a day and go back to bed. It’s more of an underhanded, sneaky kind of wrong that you don’t even realize it’s a bad day until it’s too late.

I’ve had two of those.

I had to send out an apology letter due to an error from my boss, but it looked as if it was my error. My miracle make-up that I purchased for more money than any other make-up I have ever bought, is anything but a miracle and now I get to deal with the headache of returning it. The dog did his business, in my craft area, on a brown section of the carpet, and I didn’t see it before I stepped in it. I typed up an all too long-winded post that I was going to edit, but it didn’t upload from my Nook. Speaking of technology…. yeah, on second thought, let’s not. Phone, computer, network, printer, email (had to reboot the modem as I was typing this).

So as you’ve figured out my now, it’s been one of those sneaky bad days that take you unexpectedly, but I also know that I am not the only one who has those kind of days.

It may be just me, but today I noticed that there are quite a few candid photos of celebrities lately. The ones that show that they are people too. They spend their time in the morning getting their kids ready for school, and are probably in just as frantic of a rush are we are on the first day of school since they obviously have as much time to do their hair and make-up as we do in those situations. Then there are those ‘on the set’ pictures. You know, the ones in between starting their character make-up and finishing their character make-up, not quite all put together. They also dress for comfort when traveling, running errands, or going to the gym. (well duh…. don’t you?)

Yes, they are just as tired and cranky as everyone else after a long flight. Yes, they look just as attractive as everyone else when eating. Yes, they also have to take the dog out to use the restroom, and I am sure they have also stepped in the consequences if they don’t. Yes, they are just as despondent as everyone else when their heart is broken. Yes, they have bad hair days. Yes, their eyes are red (and possible make-up smeared) after they’ve been crying.

Since they have their bad hair days, no make-up days, and wardrobe problems just as I do, I figure I could say the same if I turn the view a little bit more. If I had someone do my make-up, style my hair, and had my choice of clothes/shoes, I bet I could look just as stunning as they do if I were to attend one of their black tie functions. Not that I will ever have the opportunity, or those resources available to me, but it sure helps me feel better knowing that I could.

It helps to know that when we are having bad days, that we are not alone. It helps to be reminded that each one of us can and will shine when it our time to do so. Each of us will be there for our children, our parents, or family, our animals, and our friends. Each one of us is a celebrity in our own right in our own lives in some way or another. We all may not be as publicised as the celebrities that we consider stars, but we are a star in someones eyes.

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Life Is Good

Currently I have a pinched nerve in my back that is killing my arm and my digestive system is being difficult yet again, but….. I am otherwise healthy and alive. For that I am thankful.

As far as money is concerned I am broke, but… my rent is paid, my lights are on, my air conditioner works, and my kids are fed. For that I am grateful.

There never seems to be enough time for the things on my ‘to do’ list, but…. I have fulfilled my deadlines, rescheduled a thing or two to not only my benefit but others as well, was able to stretch my downtime to relax more, and was able to get a post in. For that I am satisfied.

My children have defied, angered, or ignored me yet again, but…. they have each done at least one tremendous good for me, themselves, or others and it has shown how much they have learned, grown, and actually were listening to me. For that I am proud.

No, things are not as well as I would like them to be but…. the are better than they have been and significantly greater than they could be. For that I am blessed.

Sitting within the shadows can limit your views to the dark spots that are there, but…. sometimes you need to step out of the shadows in order to see all the bright spots and feel the warmth that is already there. Then you may see that for this moment, which is the only moment that matters right now, and it is a moment that will never come again…. life is good.


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Music… the pulse of life

The theme of the second movement (top) transfo...

The theme of the second movement (top) transformed in the third movement (bottom) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Music is simply amazing.

It has a rhythm like the pulse within our veins. A beat, a flow, a life. It stimulates the senses and evokes a mood.

A fast, stimulating rhythm for a productive workout. An angst ridden, dramatic piece for when you need a good cry. A playful, sunny sound to enhance your happiness. A peaceful, soothing tune for meditation.

It is a way to express yourself, to create a melody that fits your life. Expressionism through words. An art form. A voice for your soul.

When put into movies or tv, it helps the viewer feel the movie. It stimulates emotions for the current scene and creates a specific atmosphere. It transports you to a different time or place.

Music brings back memories once forgotten, it reminds you to feel the moment and live within it, it brings you dreams of a better tomorrow.

Music can be used as a tool to express yourself, or for coping with life. It is your blood, sweat, tears, anger, hate, love, joy, sadness, and your state of bliss. It is everything. It is the pulse of your life. It is whatever you want it to be. It is whatever you need it to be.

Country, rock, jazz, blues, gospel, contemporary, instrumental, classical, industrial, techno, pop, pop rock, alternative, hip-hop, rap, metal, dubstep, electronic, latin, reggae, dance…… the style is as endless as our thoughts and emotions. Every single one has a rhythm and a flow filled with life. Not only do we hear and listen to music but so do we feel it with our heart and soul.

Music molds us, comforts us, stimulates us, and bonds us. Music helps us through our grief, our stress, our anger. Music is uplifting, encouraging, and energizing.

It shapes us and we shape it.

We change it just as it changes us.


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Lights… Camera… Action!

I love movies. Preferably action, fantasy, comedy, and even sci-fi. I enjoy the ability to lose myself into another time, place, or world even of it is only for a few hours. This is also why I enjoy books, music, and some tv shows. They all allow you to set any troubles you may have for the time being and focus on someone else’s, who usually has it worse than you. Or they make you laugh til you wet yourself and you try lamely attempt to pass it off a spilling your soda. Or they make remind you of the goodness ans possibilities abound that are right in front of your face if you would just pay attention more often.

I love movies. I love the thought that it is possible for everyday people to become and be someone extraordinary. You can be the person who saves your loved one from the brink of something disastrous. You can be the person who laughs in the face of danger because you know that you are bulletproof or are perfectly capable of dodging the knife with your astoundingly fast super speed. You can be the person who saved the world from complete and total destruction and be proud even though most of the world will not know it was because of you.

For the first time in my life… Ever… I really wish I was able to act. Actually, its more like I wish I had more guts. I probably could act, and quite well, but lack of self-confidence and extreme stag fright have steered me in another direction entirely. But i think it would be amazing to be able to be someone else for a little while. To be the drop dead gorgeous person that has people swooning and fighting for you. To be the bad ass hero who can kick almost anyone’s ass anytime the occasion called for it. To be the villan, just once, because it would feel so good to be so bad and not actually have the end result that villans bring about. To be able to take off my shoes and walk in another’s knowing full well that you can get to put back on your own.

But it was never meant for me I suppose. Oh, my life has been like the movies, some of them at least, and not usually the ones I care to watch. I have lived it, so I prefer not to watch it. I really would have much rather been able to kick the living sh!t outta the bad guys though, all the while looking hot and not even breaking a nail.

As I give this some thought though, I must admit the truth. We really are all hero’s of some sort or another. We are parents of children with illnesses who look to us for hope. We are teachers and mentors of people who look to us for guidance and direction. We are cancer survivors who rally together to help others like us in need. We are the rock in rough waters to cling to. We are the arms that are there to support when the knees weaken. We are the light at the end of the tunnel.

It may still go unrecognized by others at times but we know we have done the right thing, at the right time, and have saved someone’s world even if it was not the whole of the world. Ah…. But if everyone, saves someone, then together we have all saved the world.

So now you know…. You have helped save the world. You are a superhero. You should be feeling really good and very proud of yourself right about now…. Because you deserve it!

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Strangers in the morning

I talked with a stranger yesterday morning. It was a quite an interesting conversation, one that I wish could have been more in depth on several of the subjects we briefly went over, but that would have required a lot more time which I did not have.

He was out to promote business, his wife & sister in laws business. He was handing out flyers to people to vote for this business venture of some technology that would be a benifit to patients with surgery and the military. Some sort of no fog lens for scopes and goggles. You go thru facebook, vote for the idea, give them support for their effort, to assist them in getting a grant so they may peruse their venture. The whole of the idea is to benifit possibly millions of people. A very good persuit in my opinion.
I do not have a website or any other detailed information other than the flyer that was given me, and I am not entirely sure of the rules & regulations on this blogsite for helping promote someone (which I should look into if I plan on posting something like that, which I dis not), but that is not why meeting this person has stuck with me. It is the fact that in my untrusting nature I had a rather long conversation with this man all the while continuing to want to have a more in depth conversation though I knew that was not going to be possible. Not at that time at least. Heck, I would have liked to have been the quiet mouse in the corner while him and my husband had a conversation, it would have been interesting and enlightening.

Here’s the thing, I don’t really know much about him but this is what I saw. He has come a long way from where he could have ended up. He has confidence, faith,  and a good heart. He sees and brings out in others what they fail to see in themselves. He sees the bright side and doesn’t dwell in the dark. He is motivated for all the right reasons and for all the right things. It appears that everything he touches turns to gold but only because he makes it that way. He makes lemonade out of lemons so to speak. He effects people, in a good way, without them even knowing it. He has a faith in man that I have not seen in a very long time. He wants to help people become better, to do better, and be better. He sets out to so more, and he does. He does good for those around him.

There is a reason for everything. My meeting him was not by chance, I knew that when I saw him. He effected everyone he met that day, wether they knew it or not. But… He is just a man. A human being. Like you, like me. He has had heartache, disappointment, and struggles as we all do and it has made him who he is today. A teacher, a fighter, a giver, a guide.

There are wonderful people in this world. There are magical people in this world. There are amazing people in this world. Everyone of us is one of those people should we chose to be. You may not always realise the live and hearts of those you touch but you do so everyday. Do that in a way that you can be proud of. It may be the smallest or simplest thing to you that will make the world for someone else. You will brighten their day or even give them hope. Your simple, small act of kindness or consideration can change the life of another. Remember that you can, do, and will change lives and change the world and it will probably be simple gesture on your part. One of the best things you could do is start with a smile.

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Inspiration….. be yourself

Let’s try this again (i somehow completely hosed up my other post)….
Short but sweet post. These are from one of my favorite websites.
I like that website and have several favorite quotes from there. These aren’t my favorites but I do like these ones. Enjoy!
NOTE: I am not sure what the rules are for this but hopefully I have done all this correctly and I am giving credit where credit is due. If not… please tell me, because I would really like to share more of them.
“Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.”
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

~ Dr. Seuss

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.”

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Me, a freak? Why of course i am!

We are all freaks of nature. Me. You. They. Us. We.

As if just being a human being isnt enough… heartbeat, soul, emotions, energy, lifeforce…. we have disorders, stigmas, addictions, illnessess, and imperfections.

Overweight, overbearing, overthinking, smoking, alcohol, sex, gambler, poor skin, bad hair, no hair, too much hair, anorexia, bulemia, poor nutrition, enabler, codependant, bipolar, depression, shyness, paranoia, anxiety…. and on, and on, and on.

We are a walking contradiction. We see in ourselves what others fail to see, and at times fail to see what others do. We get angry when other place limitations upon us, yet we seem to consistantly place them upon ourselves.

We all have flaws. But what makes us the same also makes us different. Unique. It is just a matter of perspective. That is something we all have a choice in.

Take a deep breath and a look in the mirror. There looking back at you is a walking, talking miracle. No other person could walk in your shoes as you do. No other person could effect the people or the world around them like you do.

The question is…. how do you choose to effect the the people and world around you? Its your choice, for better or worse, it is your life. What are you going to do with it? It is your life to live. How are you going to live it?

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Meditating my way

I have found that the main point of meditating is to relax. It is to release the negative, take in the positive. Let go of the day. And so on and so forth. For someone who can’t stop thinking or analyzing, that is a whole lot harder than it sounds.
This is what I have found that works for me. It has helped me a ton in more was than I imagined and it is a stepping stone to other meditating exercises ive done.

The trick is to not set yourself up for failure. Accept your limits and work around them. Dont see it as if you don’t do it every night of the week, you fail… because you will if you do. Accept what you can do. Learn from it, grow from it, and move up from there.

The best time I’ve found to work in meditating, especially when first starting is before bed. Start with giving yourself at least 15 minutes  extra in your nightly routine. The extra details of your environment are not that important (lights on or off, music or no music, ect), the key here will be teaching the body, and mind, to learn its relaxed state. Once you program that feeling into your system, it becomes habit. It becomes more accustomed to and more willing to accept the exchange of negative for positive. It just simply becomes easier, like second nature.

When you’re ready, lie in bed on your back, take a breath, and relax. Pay attention to your  mind. Is your mind going a million miles a minute from thoughts of the day? Are you worried that you wont be able to clear your mind? I never could. I still can’t Accept that they are there. If you are good at visualizing you can imagine pushing them aside or filing them. Even if you’re not a visualize, you’re just going to let them be. And then we add in the distraction for your mind.

Pay attention to your body. What does it feel like? Theres an ache in your feet? Your back? Are you clenching your fists? You will fix that. Take a breath. Pay attention to how it feels. Is it thru your nose or your mouth? Feel the movement in your chest and lungs. Feel the breeze it makes in the air around you. Breathe in. Breathe out. Relax.

Now for your muscles. You can start at your head, or at your toes, whichever is comfortable for you. Let say you start at your hands because they’re clenched on top of your belly. Take a breath and move them to your sides. Wiggle the Fingers to loosen them up. What do they feel like? Achy, sore, cramped from typing your blog? Breathe and relax. Relax your fingers. All the muscles, all the tendons all the joints. Breathe. Feel the weight. Feel how they get heavier as they relax. Feel the air around them. Breathe. Your wrists and forearms. Relax the muscles and tendons. Feel the weight. Feel the air. Breathe

You can start at what hurts the most, you can start at the top and work your way down, or toes to head. If you get too tired to finish, that’s a good thing. That usually means that you’ve let your day go, which was why you were doing that in the first place. If you’re good at visualizing, you can visualize your aches, pains, thoughts, negativity as bubbles or fog or something that get released or disperse as you relax and let them go. You can also do that with your breath. release the negativity, pain, thoughts, or what have you with your air when you breathe out. When you breathe in, know that it is clean, fresh, positive air taking the place of the negative air.

You can do this one night a week, every other night, or whenever you have the time. When you first start, it will take a while. It usually does, but after teaching your body how to relax, next thing you know you jump into bed and as you take that deep breath to prepare yourself…. your whole body melts and relaxes with it. Even if you never get to that part, taking the time to relax your body is like hitting the reset button. And just that simple feat makes a difference.

I think the next meditation one I will post will be the one you can do in public… without drawing attention to yourself or getting arrested 😉

Not entirely sure if it’d be considered meditation or not but if it accomplishes what you want meditation to do… then I’d call it meditation.

You’re welcome to give feedback, questions, or comments. I hope this is helpful.

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