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Life Is Good

Currently I have a pinched nerve in my back that is killing my arm and my digestive system is being difficult yet again, but….. I am otherwise healthy and alive. For that I am thankful.

As far as money is concerned I am broke, but… my rent is paid, my lights are on, my air conditioner works, and my kids are fed. For that I am grateful.

There never seems to be enough time for the things on my ‘to do’ list, but…. I have fulfilled my deadlines, rescheduled a thing or two to not only my benefit but others as well, was able to stretch my downtime to relax more, and was able to get a post in. For that I am satisfied.

My children have defied, angered, or ignored me yet again, but…. they have each done at least one tremendous good for me, themselves, or others and it has shown how much they have learned, grown, and actually were listening to me. For that I am proud.

No, things are not as well as I would like them to be but…. the are better than they have been and significantly greater than they could be. For that I am blessed.

Sitting within the shadows can limit your views to the dark spots that are there, but…. sometimes you need to step out of the shadows in order to see all the bright spots and feel the warmth that is already there. Then you may see that for this moment, which is the only moment that matters right now, and it is a moment that will never come again…. life is good.



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Music… the pulse of life

The theme of the second movement (top) transfo...

The theme of the second movement (top) transformed in the third movement (bottom) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Music is simply amazing.

It has a rhythm like the pulse within our veins. A beat, a flow, a life. It stimulates the senses and evokes a mood.

A fast, stimulating rhythm for a productive workout. An angst ridden, dramatic piece for when you need a good cry. A playful, sunny sound to enhance your happiness. A peaceful, soothing tune for meditation.

It is a way to express yourself, to create a melody that fits your life. Expressionism through words. An art form. A voice for your soul.

When put into movies or tv, it helps the viewer feel the movie. It stimulates emotions for the current scene and creates a specific atmosphere. It transports you to a different time or place.

Music brings back memories once forgotten, it reminds you to feel the moment and live within it, it brings you dreams of a better tomorrow.

Music can be used as a tool to express yourself, or for coping with life. It is your blood, sweat, tears, anger, hate, love, joy, sadness, and your state of bliss. It is everything. It is the pulse of your life. It is whatever you want it to be. It is whatever you need it to be.

Country, rock, jazz, blues, gospel, contemporary, instrumental, classical, industrial, techno, pop, pop rock, alternative, hip-hop, rap, metal, dubstep, electronic, latin, reggae, dance…… the style is as endless as our thoughts and emotions. Every single one has a rhythm and a flow filled with life. Not only do we hear and listen to music but so do we feel it with our heart and soul.

Music molds us, comforts us, stimulates us, and bonds us. Music helps us through our grief, our stress, our anger. Music is uplifting, encouraging, and energizing.

It shapes us and we shape it.

We change it just as it changes us.


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Meditating my way

I have found that the main point of meditating is to relax. It is to release the negative, take in the positive. Let go of the day. And so on and so forth. For someone who can’t stop thinking or analyzing, that is a whole lot harder than it sounds.
This is what I have found that works for me. It has helped me a ton in more was than I imagined and it is a stepping stone to other meditating exercises ive done.

The trick is to not set yourself up for failure. Accept your limits and work around them. Dont see it as if you don’t do it every night of the week, you fail… because you will if you do. Accept what you can do. Learn from it, grow from it, and move up from there.

The best time I’ve found to work in meditating, especially when first starting is before bed. Start with giving yourself at least 15 minutes  extra in your nightly routine. The extra details of your environment are not that important (lights on or off, music or no music, ect), the key here will be teaching the body, and mind, to learn its relaxed state. Once you program that feeling into your system, it becomes habit. It becomes more accustomed to and more willing to accept the exchange of negative for positive. It just simply becomes easier, like second nature.

When you’re ready, lie in bed on your back, take a breath, and relax. Pay attention to your  mind. Is your mind going a million miles a minute from thoughts of the day? Are you worried that you wont be able to clear your mind? I never could. I still can’t Accept that they are there. If you are good at visualizing you can imagine pushing them aside or filing them. Even if you’re not a visualize, you’re just going to let them be. And then we add in the distraction for your mind.

Pay attention to your body. What does it feel like? Theres an ache in your feet? Your back? Are you clenching your fists? You will fix that. Take a breath. Pay attention to how it feels. Is it thru your nose or your mouth? Feel the movement in your chest and lungs. Feel the breeze it makes in the air around you. Breathe in. Breathe out. Relax.

Now for your muscles. You can start at your head, or at your toes, whichever is comfortable for you. Let say you start at your hands because they’re clenched on top of your belly. Take a breath and move them to your sides. Wiggle the Fingers to loosen them up. What do they feel like? Achy, sore, cramped from typing your blog? Breathe and relax. Relax your fingers. All the muscles, all the tendons all the joints. Breathe. Feel the weight. Feel how they get heavier as they relax. Feel the air around them. Breathe. Your wrists and forearms. Relax the muscles and tendons. Feel the weight. Feel the air. Breathe

You can start at what hurts the most, you can start at the top and work your way down, or toes to head. If you get too tired to finish, that’s a good thing. That usually means that you’ve let your day go, which was why you were doing that in the first place. If you’re good at visualizing, you can visualize your aches, pains, thoughts, negativity as bubbles or fog or something that get released or disperse as you relax and let them go. You can also do that with your breath. release the negativity, pain, thoughts, or what have you with your air when you breathe out. When you breathe in, know that it is clean, fresh, positive air taking the place of the negative air.

You can do this one night a week, every other night, or whenever you have the time. When you first start, it will take a while. It usually does, but after teaching your body how to relax, next thing you know you jump into bed and as you take that deep breath to prepare yourself…. your whole body melts and relaxes with it. Even if you never get to that part, taking the time to relax your body is like hitting the reset button. And just that simple feat makes a difference.

I think the next meditation one I will post will be the one you can do in public… without drawing attention to yourself or getting arrested 😉

Not entirely sure if it’d be considered meditation or not but if it accomplishes what you want meditation to do… then I’d call it meditation.

You’re welcome to give feedback, questions, or comments. I hope this is helpful.

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